Yes is My Lucky Option !!

Right now I am reading this book by Richard Branson, "Screw it, Let's Do It". On the first page of the book itself. This thought of mine got confirmed from him on which I am going to write about.

He says that his nickname amongst some of the Virgin group staff is 'Dr Yes'. It had come about because of his automatic response to a question; a request or a problem is more likely to be positive than negative. He always tried to find reasons to do something if it seems like a good idea, than not to do it.

Many people say 'No' or 'let met think over it' as a most Pavlovian response when asked a question, whether it's about something small and insignificant or big and revolutionary.

Perhaps they are over-cautious, or suspicious of new ideas, or simply need time to think. But that's not his way of going about things. If something is a good idea, his way is to say 'Yes, I'll consider it' - and then to work out how to make it happen. Of course, its not the case for everything. But what is worse: making the occasional mistake or having a closed mind and missing opportunities?

I always thought, this is the same way probability also works and this works with our lucky numbers, lucky colors, lucky dress, lucky pen etc. too.

The more times we choose any number or color, assuming it our lucky one. The more chances it has to be lucky.

Consider your lucky number, that's the number your have always priorities over others, and when ever it worked as lucky, your faith turned to belief on that Particular Number.

Now think in the same probability terms of your choices, you have made... the more times you have chosen yes the more times you have given "Yes" a change to be lucky and if its "No" think of all the opportunities you might have missed....

I think getting lucky with "Yes" is much better. Just think over it... I don't know may be "No" works for you... but for me "Yes" is My Lucky Option.

I See Beauty...

I see beauty!!

in blushing eyes...
in rosy lips...
in soft cheeks....

They are the only few things, Which I want to see forever long...

(my first video edit)

Will we be, a good HOST?

The People of India are the proud host of XIX Commonwealth Games Delhi 2010 scheduled from 3 through 14^th October 2010. Over 8000 athletes and officials from 71 nations and territories of the Commonwealth will participate in 17 sporting events along with sports like lawn-ball, netball and rugby-seven.

From our countries 1.15 billion population (as on Jul 27, 2009) people of Delhi will be welcoming the guests from around the world and  participants who will take part in 272 medal events.....With the excitement growing around the capital city, I am pretty sure that the games will be fine and we will deliver the best ever CWG. Security being one of the major concern for the games and with 1.6 billion $ pumped into games and its organization, a major amount will be pushed for the security…. But there is something different which is bothering me. Will we be, a good host???

I am trying to focus the attention towards a threat to our guest from the so called robbers/chain snatchers/mobile snatchers/rapers whatever you can call them….

My stay in NCR is nearing to a year soon, and I have concluded/witnessed that the city is not safe. For me safe is a relative term…..if you go around at 2am on streets something bad is bound to happen and of not than you should consider yourself lucky. And even if you have to move out you will be conscious to avoid any danger. The term unsafe in a city is what I call when you have to be cautious during the morning walks, hot afternoons and in the evenings also(before 9pm), now that’s unsafe and this is what NCR is.

People compare NCR with Mumbai Chennai or any other Indian city. But according to them NCR is the most unsafe and insecure….. in 2005, Delhi accounted for the highest percentage (16.2%) of the crimes reported in the 35 cities in India with populations of one million or more and its crime graph is still shooting up as a gas filled balloon, the situation now more or less is still the same. Newspapers even address NCR as National Crime Region…..While the preparations of the games are on, I am sure that the people who perform these crimes will also be planning something to catch the big and fancy vulnerable prey i.e. our guests.

Most of the population living in NCR knows, that these situations can come around and are somewhat prepared… but people coming to Delhi during the games won’t be so aware….

My point is just that there should be a strategic move and the security personnel should be routed to control these crimes,  especially during the commonwealth games…..cause this is the time when India can showcase itself to the world as spectacular nation and elevate India's reputation as a host country. I don’t know any solution to this…may be you can suggest one....but this is a matter of serious concern…..

I just hope that during CWG these maniacs will keep their calm….and let the event complete with harmony and peace.

That Tiny Amount

This might not concern me(for now), or you, or for that matter a major percentage of the people reading this thing....or 60% of India's population....but this is something which is severely affecting the lives of the rest of the 40% population around us.... 

I would not have thought of this a few days earlier,,,,but I am forced to think of it now.......

Few days ago I shifted to a boys hostel in Noida....for the time being....

Food here is pathetic, but better than what I had in my college days in hostel.

We are total 10 ppl living in 4 rooms here....and we all are from different backgrounds.....

But all of the them share a common thing...the fear of future,,,their careers,,,their lives...their pasts and their present....sooner or latter there is a discussion about the JOBS...and as soon as a new guy pop into our hostel rest of the roommates keep bugging the new joinee for any openings in his company...

From the day I shifted here my friends/new hostel mates expect me to find a job for them....I have a bunch of resumes ready with me and I desperately want to fit them anywhere....according to them nilesh is in a nice job so he can find something for them...but I am in this professional world for just 6 months now...

For the recruitment in my company these days I receive a lots of resumes from the ppl I know and its hard for me to decide for whom I should go.....

Just for a moment say we got 6000 Rs at hand to spend for whatever we can...what is the first thing have in our mind??? ok lets plan a party!!! or buy some clothing or nice shoes or go for a movie....

But think if you have those 6000 for all of the next month ahead....and in that 4000 is the monthly rent you have to pay ...so remaining 2000, so what to do in that?? in this case can you imagine going for a movie even if it costs you 30 Rs a show?...no way!!!

Its such a tiny amount...but its the monthly salary of some ppl, some fine graduates with technical and professional degrees...I sometimes see my salary very tiny...

but actually its multiples of that tiny amount!!

Now it seems a huge sum?

I am just so helpless I have just words for them and my learning's which sounds as wisdom for them...but they have something more precious for me....they taught me the value of money which I haven't realized even after watching the ice-cream wala struggling,,,,or some beggar at the traffic light, or a rickshaw wala!!

Folks....dont consider this an application for any job opening around you...But seriously if you come across any, please let me know, any time....there might be someone in need who needs to know of it...and I know lot of such people....

God give me strength to face the expectations of my loved ones and the ones who desperately need my(our) help.

A Biased Feeling

So finally it is out...or say leaked....The Liberhan Report.....

Which was supposed to take 3 months for final submission...but unfortunately it took 17 long years...and made some very obvious comments and suggestions. Whatever the wounds of the past are fresh again and surely it will be painful.

I have never known of the Babri Masjid fall until 1999. I was in Sehore(MP) that time, the time was of 13th lokshabha elections and we children's gather around and shared which party their parents gonna vote for. That evening I asked my father, for whom shall he vote?? "For panja(congress) or for fool(bpj)?". He said he would not share that but he will vote for neither of them. All of the houses in our small town colonies were having some kind of flag or poster or a banner of some political party. I also wanted some flag of banner over our house(as my friends used to make fun of me not not knowing which party my parents will vote for)....I have heard from my friend and from shushma swaraj herself in a political really about the act of Babri Masjid.....we were so excited that a political leader is in our town and we rushed to have a glimpse of her.

I was curious and asked my friends if they knew about Babri Masjid...so here was that narration of my friend,"Wahan Ram Bhagwan rehte the unke ghar ko todkar wahan musalmaano ne masjid bana di....aab bhagwan ke saath koi aaisa karega to unka ghar to tootna hi tha"!!! that was so innocent but enough for me....then I thought, supporting BJP is like supporting Ram Bhagwan itself.....though my parents didn't tell me who they gonna vote,I told my friends that they will vote for BJP. so there we were set out to collect BJP caps and BJP flags and stickers with Vajpayee on that....

But now I think that what was the source of my friends knowledge, he was same age as I was, But how did he know that Babri Masjid act was for the sake of god...I realize after that his father was a RSS activists and that explains it.

After almost 10 years, now that friend is turned out to be a hindu fundamentalists....

The point is not my friend but the words put into his mind from his childhood.....I laugh at myself for supporting BJP due a reason I hate these fundamentalists now.

I don't see any reason for not comparing Taliban with kar sevaks.....the Taliban demolished Bamyian and Kar Sevaks demolished Babri......both did that due the extremists thoughts of few men but there was one difference in the two situations,,,,,we have democracy. Even I don't know what to judge from that statement of mine.
 

The comment by Vinay Katiyar (founder-President of Bajrang Dal)"Demolition day was the happiest day of my life".....made me feel pity for him......I am not with any political party but not certainly with a party that can't hold its dogs. I know that 14th feb,,,,few bikers stopped near 10 no. market in bhopal with lathis and trishool in their hands and just set out to dismantle the Archies Gift Shop there for it was selling valentine day greetings.....they go by molesting girls and beating the males with them. This happened for all those year Uma Bharit was the chief minister of MP.

Some people set the example of Narendra Modi and Vajpayee as the best men of BJP, but for me they are just Karan and Bishma on Dhuryadhonas side.

I feel that the people who justify their act on 6 dec 1992, are not just fooling themselves but an entire nation.

Just that, this is the time for liberals from both sides, not to let these extremists spoil our believes. And I don't want to see the next generation grow like my poor friend. We already had enough.

Too much for Too long...

I am getting sick of cricket more then ever after that so called defeat of India (I see that as a great and interesting match)...On every corner of road, every third person on a bus stop,,,,,every group chatting in free-time in office has only and only one topic to chat about and to discuss.....cricket cricket and cricket....

I mean what's the point???someone is praising Sachin,,others are criticizing him.....I say even if Sachin made only 7 runs to complete his 17000 mega buck that would even have made headlines and the same extent of local discussions should have kicked off. Its too much for a game.

I heard on radio, some one saying that the lower order was not playing for the team.... my counter point is that how can a person play a team game, in a sport which "I" do not consider a team sport. In cricket everyone plays for his own and in the end all of it collectively contributes to the efforts of 11 people(the team).

One person is bowling and two batting....what the hell others are doing?? standing and waiting for them to play.....


I also loved cricket and played it a lot lot lot when till I was 17.... I used to go for cricket practice every morning and my brother for football practice.....my father used to say "I would be proud if one of my son makes to indian cricket team and other to Indian football team".

I am not a cricketer now, but my father is proud of me.....but how that cricket thing got off me. Well, I just by chance start playing hockey in my college......then i realized where is all the news from other sports, they are not on the newspaper's sport page,,,not on news channels....they are all compassionate of covering only cricket and showing a little mercy to other sports now and then....

Jagmohan Dalmiya did made cricket a prestigious game and now for people cricket is a religion....there are too much of religious issues, that india couldn't possibly bear one more religion with 80% majority (extremists) falling into it....

I too love watching cricket but....this too much of cricket???No, not at all......I don't remember last 2 consecutive weeks when indian cricket team has not played a match.....may be I am wrong but yes even if there is a break...there would certainly no resting for media.

After every match they judge weather the move was right??or worrying and trying to find out the reason or more importantly finding a player to blame for losing a match or for wining....."weather Nehra could have done,That we would have won"....or "Sachin should have not played That shot"...bull shit!!!

In hockey matches I know the thing we do at that particular instance, is done with the sole motive of winning and not losing....that particular thing done at that particular moment seems the most right thing to do and so we do...and every player does....some times we regret that but....its at that moment a player decides what to do....not after the act is done.....

On one television show they were showing how the team practices and how they dropped the catches,,,how they were laughing and not practicing.....what a shit to cover....
I am literally becoming too sick of this great game, with which once I was in love!!

Act of a MOB

It is ever painful and always mesmerized me when I hear of any any mishap in which someone get hurts in an accident or a tragic event (The resent run over by Ajmer Shatabdi near Gurgaon or any other event). What the mob does on these events, this so called MOB gathers around for hours and hours, and at last dispersed only after destroying public property and causing lots of inconvenience to a common man.

Does the pain and anger justifies such an act of MOB. even we are scared of such a Mob, when it rages it don't cares if any one will again suffer the same inconvenience/hurt, sometime it might be of getting late to an important interview, or getting abusive words or molestation for our women or getting late to hospital.

And at the same time we are the ones who make a MOB!!In short we are scared of us, do our hidden vibes make us act like an angry mob?

Last monday when I was going to hauz khas market to meet a friend. I took a blue line bus. On the way the two private buses start racing for they have to get more passengers aboard. On a metro construction diversion our bus managed to pass the diversion first, at the same time the other bus rammed itself in to our bus,none hurt. Then.... Then what?? our driver and conductor got off the bus along with few young fellows and got into the other bus and start yelling for the accident crashed one of the rear lights of our bus. The whole traffic stopped, the cars honking. I saw a man requesting the driver of our bus "bhai sahab bus aage kar lo,mujhe train pakadni hai,mere bacche mar gaya hai aaj shaam...bhaiya please train chut jayegi",but our driver doesn't seems to care about, around this one way conversation, one of the young fellow slapped the other driver and the whole bunch of men staring pushing and punching each other. There were over 10 people fighting and 15 more trying to stop them.

After 15 minutes or so the police came and settled it, as the last move, our conductor took out a rod from the bus and smashed both the head-lights of other. and stepped into our bus as he have done a very proudly job. With lots of abusive words into our ears we moved on.

On the way I was thinking of the other 6 guys out of those 10 mens fighting. who were they?? and where did the person who lost his son went after the fight started? do people like those 6 guys lead the whole crowd to the acts of destroying public property and causing inconvenience???